Have you ever been told to calm down when you were upset? Or felt like you had to suppress your frustration at work to be seen as professional? Most of us have been taught that certain emotions—like anger, sadness, or frustration—are “bad” and should be pushed away. We learn to put on a brave face, but deep down, that unprocessed energy just becomes mental clutter, weighing us down.
But what if we’ve been looking at it all wrong?
In a recent podcast episode, I sat down with the incredible Dr. Sandra Lewis, a clinical psychologist and personal energy strategist, and she completely shifted my perspective. Her core belief is simple but profound:
“Nothing happening inside you is there to hurt you”.
That’s right. According to Dr. Lewis, every single feeling, even the most uncomfortable ones, is there to
help you. She calls our ability to sense and perceive our emotions a “human superpower”.
Think about the last time you felt truly angry. What was it about? Dr. Lewis suggests that anger is often a powerful signal that your core values have been violated. It’s not just a negative feeling to be suppressed; it’s a messenger trying to get your attention. It’s telling you where you need to realign with what truly matters to you. When we see it this way, we can use that energy not for destruction, but for creative problem-solving and positive change.
The conversation took an even deeper turn when she shared what she considers one of the greatest gifts of emotional intelligence: the recognition that our feelings originate
inside us. As she put it, no one can pour anger or joy into you; you create it from within.
I have to be honest—as you’ll hear in the episode, my immediate reaction was discomfort. My mind instinctively wanted to blame someone or something else for my unease. But then came the insight: if we create our emotions, that means we have agency. We have the power to
shift our experience. That isn’t about blame; it’s about reclaiming our personal power.
This is the very essence of the work we are setting out to do with our new platform, ALIGN. It’s about moving from a place of reaction to a place of conscious creation.
In a world designed to make us chase after an idea of success that doesn’t feel aligned, compete with each other and fight for resources, our mission at ALIGN is to remind you to:
Pause in the midst of the chaos
Put on your oxygen mask first
Give from a place of overflow, not depletion
Find your true gifts and share them with the world
Attract (Not Chase) a life of abundance in health, relationships and finances
Get ALIGNed
This work isn’t a one-time fix; it’s a daily practice. That’s why I am so thrilled that Dr. Sandra Lewis will be bringing her wisdom to ALIGN, guiding a weekly session called
“Befriending Our Emotions” to help us all build this crucial skill.
So if you want to get a COMPLIMENTARY taste of what to expect inside the world of ALIGN, please join us for one of our live, virtual open houses this week. Choose the time that works best for you:
Evening Sessions (7:00 PM): Join us on Tuesday, September 30th, Wednesday, October 1st, or Thursday, October 2nd.
Morning Session (8:00 AM): Join us on Saturday, October 4th.
Come celebrate the launch, meet the team and some like-minded folks, enjoy session demos, giveaways, and most importantly, give yourself permission to stop DOING and just BE.
